AFS Module 8 – Parenting & Attachment

There is hardly a job more common, yet so difficult to get right, than parenting. In one way or another we are all affected by (the lack of) parenting in our lives. As hard as it is to do it well, it is even harder to teach others to do this well. Parenting instruction easily becomes biased, or seen through a cultural lens.

This module will begin by exploring and evaluating a variety of lenses and cultural bias, each of which have led to different parenting styles and disciplines. 

We will then present a framework for parenting from one particular viewpoint (the Developmental Approach). This particular methodology will give students the opportunity to develop an understanding and culturally appropriate interpretation to parenting in various contexts, while remaining congruent with biblical values. By comparing other approaches (based on other methodologies), students can develop their capacity to communicate their values and chosen approach to parents.

The premise of this material is to teach students “how to see”, rather than give them instructions as to “what to do”. The student can then evaluate their ability to ask questions so as “to see” the child in the process of maturation. There will be several opportunities (via group discussion) for students to engage and respond with their observations. 

You will find exercise questions for each video session. The best way to work with these is to read the questions before watching the video, and then make notes as you go. These can then be tidied up as succinct answers to the questions.

FFS Module 4 – Parenting Children

In this module we will work through the Parenting Children material, written by Mark and Lindsay Melluish, pastors in the UK and leaders of the national New Wine movement.

We have chosen this approach due to it’s qualities as a value driven approach to parenting, and also as it has a full set of facilitating materials available. You will discover the book, the teaching videos, full transcripts of the teaching, a participants manual, a leaders manual, and an editable ppt presentation. There is also a leader’s guide for accompanying children through the same curriculum (written by Joële and Guy Zeller, Kings Kids). In addition, the written materials are also available in French, and could be translated into other languages.

You may, or may not be a parent. This does not prevent you from becoming engaged with parents and transmitting ideas that will help them. The way this course works depends heavily on the interaction that will take place between parents in small group situations. You will see that there is a lot of flexibility in the way the content can be presented.

This module will put you immediately in the driver’s seat, transmitting some of the content to a group of parents in your locality. When you emerge at the end of this module you will be equipped to take this content out to others*.

Take 20 minutes to look through the book and get an overview of the course.

Paul Marsh

* You should also be aware that you can design and submit further presentation of this material as an outreach credit for the FFS. If you wish do do this please use the dedicated registration form.